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Publicado en Miércoles 20 febrero, 2013 | por Ale Vergara

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Odio a la gente, me gustan las personas

La gente me cansa. No, no es misantropía ni sentido figurado: la gente me genera agotamiento físico. Si en el día no tengo por lo menos unas tres o cuatro horas para estar sola, termino derrumbándome, en calidad de trapo, al llegar a mi casa. Cuando voy a ir a algún lugar en el que sé que habrá mucha gente, tengo que prepararme mentalmente; me aterran  las multitudes. La cosa es así: odio a la gente, me gustan las personas.

Hace tiempo, un amigo me pasó un artículo que, me dijo, describía a la gente que “es como yo”. Con semejante afirmación, evidentemente, lo leí. Y sí, hablaba de los introvertidos. He de decir que nunca me había considerado una persona introvertida o siquiera contemplado la posibilidad de serlo ya que, haciendo un mal cálculo mental, homologaba la introversión a la timidez, y tímida sí que no soy.

Resulta, pues, que los introvertidos somos aquellos que preferimos a las personas en pequeñas dosis: salir con un grupo reducido de amigos, platicar con no más de cuatro o cinco personas a la vez; somos los que, en algún momento de la fiesta, nos tenemos que salir al balcón para ponerle pausa al barullo y a la voces y a la música y a todos los estímulos que de pronto parecieran saturarnos. Mis amigos ya lo saben: si estuve todo el día inmersa en algún tipo de interacción social intensa (lo cual, en mi caso, puede ser, por ejemplo, haber tenido una junta en el trabajo o haber ido a comer con alguien que no sea muy cercano) es muy probable que en la noche no quiera ir a visitar a nadie.

Es como si tuviera un límite de interacción social y una vez que llego a ese límite dejo de funcionar, me pongo de un humor de los mil diablos y me siento tan cansada como si acabara de hacer un examen de matemáticas de cuatro horas. Lo que debo hacer entonces, si es posible, es conseguirme un tiempo sola. A veces, a las personas les cuesta comprender esto y creen que no me caen bien o que estoy enojada con ellos o qué sé yo. No, no es eso, es sólo que ya no voy a estar cómoda si me mantengo ahí y el agotamiento comenzará a agudizarse más y más.

Ese es el problema: cómo lo perciben los otros. Hay personas que no se explican que quiera estar sola sin que eso implique que me sienta mal. Y es que, me parece, hay una estigmatización de la soledad. Quien quiere estar solo, en muchos casos, es visto como alguien que no sabe vivir en sociedad y que mejor debería irse a vivir a una cueva lejos de todo el mundo. La soledad, muchas veces, es percibida como algo malo, triste e indeseable. Nada más alejado de la realidad. Incluso los extrovertidos necesitan tiempo para estar a solas, hay personas que necesitamos un poquito más de tiempo. Este asunto del estigma de la soledad se puede ver incluso en el lenguaje: tenemos una única palabra para la soledad y su carga semántica es más bien negativa y relacionada con el desasosiego. El inglés, por ejemplo, tiene dos palabras para el hecho de estar solo: solitude y loneliness, soledad de la buena y soledad de la mala (lo más cercano que se me ocurre en español sería estar solo y sentirse solo, aunque no es tan eficaz como estos términos). Una soledad que implica estar con uno mismo, con nuestros pensamientos y nuestros procesos mentales, una soledad reflexiva y cómoda y la otra, la soledad de la alienación, la de sentirse incomunicados, esa soledad espantosa que se puede sentir, incluso, en compañía. La que nos gusta a los introvertidos es la primera, así como nos gustan las personas y no la gente. Habría que empezar a asumirnos abiertamente como gente introvertida y tratar de ir quitándole ese estigma espantoso al asunto de la soledad. Empiezo: soy Alejandra, soy introvertida, ustedes son encantadores, pero me voy a ir un ratito a estar sola.

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Soy licenciada en Literatura y maestra en Teoría y Crítica literaria, también soy insomne. Nunca estoy hablando en serio; ni siquiera cuando hablo en serio. Me gusta mucho hacerle a la edición, pero me gusta más andarle haciendo al cuento.



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    Me identifique cañon, la verdad no recuerdo que fue primero: si yo al estar incomoda con la gente o la gente conmigo porque siempre he sido algo rara. No tolero las multitudes, ni los niños enfadosos y una gran variedad de gente.

    Tienes toda la razón que debería de quitarse el estigma que tiene, sobre todo en el caso de las mujeres que prefieren juntarse con un maltratador bueno para nada, con tal de «no estar solas» o «vestir tan santos» que tan feo se ve.

    Hace tiempo tuve un maestro que hablaba que las sociedades del primer mundo estaban mutando y que era mas común la gente que optaba por estar sola o no tener hijos. El maestro decía que optar por ello era estar mas cercanos a lo que la humanidad realmente representa, ya que la familia es una creación de primates y nosotros aunque decendemos de ellos no lo somos y por ello podríamos ser capaces de ser autónomos y saber lidiar con nosotros mismos.

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